Living alone in the suburbs is a common theme in films, but the isolation felt in a modern, soundproof city apartment can be just as profound, perhaps even more. Imagine being high up in a skyscraper, feeling like the only person left in the world.
This is where we find Adam (played by Andrew Scott), the central character of “All of Us Strangers,” who lives in an apartment on the outskirts of London. Adam is a lonely figure, trying to write a screenplay while clad in an unattractive sweater, spending most of his time on the sofa, watching TV and snacking. He gazes out at the city skyline from his window, feeling disconnected from everything, as he always has. Now in his middle years, he seems most comfortable observing life from a distance. Adam, a gay man with a tragic past and a writer’s spirit, has always felt an inherent sense of loneliness.
The film “All of Us Strangers,” directed by Andrew Haigh and inspired by Taichi Yamada’s novel “Strangers,” reflects Haigh’s focus on the deep emotional experiences of queer men. He transforms Yamada’s story into something warmer and more enigmatic, closely aligned with his sensibilities.
Initially, the film leaves us guessing about its genre. There are moments when Adam appears to be the last man on earth. Then he meets Harry (portrayed by Paul Mescal), a mustachioed neighbor who approaches him with a whiskey bottle. Adam, who is polite but hesitant, doesn’t invite him in, preferring his solitude, or perhaps fearing the change it might bring. Yet, as Adam delves into his past (writing about his suburban childhood), he finds himself drawn back to those suburbs.
In this journey, time seems to fold in on itself. When Adam returns, his dull life begins to gain depth. He slowly falls for
Harry, gradually reveals deeper parts of himself that were long hidden. He starts to question whether opening up his heart is worth the risk, and what his deceased parents would think of him now.
Director Andrew Haigh masterfully creates a dreamlike atmosphere in “All of Us Strangers.” The film shifts from a monochromatic existence to a life filled with the vibrant colors of love. However, the movie’s plot is complex and somewhat contrived, flirting with over-sentimentality at times. On my second viewing, I let go of trying to analyze it and just experienced the emotional journey, which is perhaps the best way to appreciate it.
Andrew Scott’s performance is particularly striking. His ability to convey deep, unspoken pain is remarkable, especially in close-up scenes where every expression is meaningful. This isn’t to downplay Paul Mescal’s role – both actors bring depth to their characters. In one scene, Scott wears childlike pajamas, evoking vulnerability and innocence rather than absurdity. His portrayal reflects a deep yearning for the impossible – to reconnect with his parents and understand their view of his current self.
“All of Us Strangers” is a contemplative film about the many faces of loneliness. Adam is isolated in every sense – physically, emotionally, mentally, and creatively. His deepest loneliness stems from missed experiences and interactions, like trips not taken or conversations about his sexuality that never occurred with his parents.
The film will resonate with anyone who has lost a loved one suddenly, leaving unsaid words and questions about how they would perceive us now. We try to fill this void by imagining our lost loved ones forgiving and accepting us, living in a world populated by their ghosts.
Harry’s statement to Adam, “I’ve always felt like a stranger in my own family,” strikes a powerful chord. It’s a feeling many can relate to, even those surrounded by loving family members. We often feel like strangers in our own lives, striving to move from the unfamiliar to the familiar. This is a journey that many of us, in one way or another, are on.
“All of Us Strangers” is rated R for its candid portrayal of sexual encounters, drug use, and numerous melancholic themes. The film runs for 1 hour and 45 minutes and is available in theaters.
